Hi this is Veronica,
Here is a great letter from Amanda, who’d like some help with online dating to find her Mr. Right.
I thought the following tips would be helpful for everyone who is dating.
I am divorced and would like to meet a good man to marry and start a family.
I am online dating on different sites but after a while, the dating scene can get overwhelming and boring.
Sometimes I even have to force myself to continue meeting men.
Do you have any suggestions as to what I should do to be more enthusiastic and efficient in my search?
I’d appreciate your insight and advice.
First of all, BRAVO to YOU for being actively dating!
Keep it up because meeting different men will lead you to find your Mr. Right.
Let me start with some pointers to maximize your chances in the dating scene as well as to make dating more fun and easier on you.
Circular Dating is the most powerful tool to find the love you want. (this tool was the most powerful weapon I learned from my my Relationship Coach teacher Rori Raye).
Date at least 3 men at a time.
Dating can be anything like going for a walk, meeting for a coffee, enjoying a bike ride or dressing up for a fancy dinner.
Therefore, if you want to, you can even have more than one date in one day!
TREAT THEM ALL EQUAL
Train yourself to treat all men equal and to give them all the same messages.
Make no difference with the ones you like from the ones you are not interested on.
Risk to express exactly what you are looking for.
Say: “I want to meet someone with whom I can enjoy a loving relationship, which would, eventually, lead to marriage and family.”
Rehearse saying precisely what you want.
To make it easier for you, practice especially with men that you don’t feel attracted to.
With each new man you meet, take the opportunity to communicate your wants clearly and directly, so that you can explore how that feels for you.
This is a powerful tool because you are not asking him for anything.
You are just stating what you are looking for in ANY man.
The sooner you speak your wants, the more chances you’ll have to find the man that wants the same in life.
The rest of the men will filter out and you won’t be wasting your valuable time with them.
EXPLORE DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES:
Explore dating different kinds of men.
Accept dates from seemingly good men that you wouldn’t normally consider dating.
For instance, agree to meet men that typically aren’t your type, or the ones that seem too predictable, or those that appear boring etc…
Avoid judging them.
Just see how you feel in their presence.
Think of dating as “free therapy” for you.
Allow dating to be a self-learning experience, and use it to explore how you feel in the presence of different men.
This will help you get a more clear understanding of the kind of men you are attracting and where you are emotionally.
Consider dating as a great opportunity to practice communicating your “feelings” with many different men.
Most of all, be in touch with how you feel expressing who you are and what you want.
Conveying your wants to men that you’re unattached to gives you the chance to practice without risking anything.
ENJOY THE PROCESS
Be PROCESS oriented versus RESULT oriented.
Instead of thinking that you are trying to find a man (result oriented) , shift your energy, and enjoy meeting people with interests different from yours, and find excitement in getting to talk to men with diverse talents, careers, and personal stories.
KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN
DO NOT BECOME EXCLUSIVE, to any man until you have received and accepted a full commitment (wedding date, and a ring on your finger) from the man you want!
This will not only increase your chances to meet your man, but also, will keep you focus on what you want.
Keeping your options open will prevent you from unknowingly putting pressure on the man you like.
When you irradiate a light feeling of just having fun and being in “the moment” with men you date, not only you’ll enjoy your dates, but also, you’ll become irresistibly attractive to them.
You’ll emanate an energy of detachment, and self-assurance which will make you absolutely magnetic.
This has to be authentic, it has to be “real”, and come from within you.
Don’t try to fake it, because it’ll backfire.
JUST BE YOUR FABULOUS SELF AND LET THEM FALL AT YOUR FEET!
Once you apply all these tips you’ll realize that dating is NOT about the men you meet, instead it is all about YOU!
Discover, how you feel in their presence moment to moment, and keep the focus on you.
Avoid analyzing them, or even visualizing if the guy seating in front of you could be the father of your kids!
Train yourself to be in the moment, and enjoy what each moment offers you.
HAVE FUN and be light.
As you keep using these tools, each man you meet will help you get closer to your Mr. Right.
I would love to hear how this goes for you!
Please keep me posted! I love receiving your updates!!
Love and Gratitude